Song Series - Ghostin'

Songwriting
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The New York Times article on “Ghosting,” was the inspiration for this song.  Ghosting is a cultural phenomenon in which a friend, partner, or lover cuts off all communication with you and disappears from your life.  Obviously this isn’t something someone would want to experience.  While this may not be a totally new thing, it seems to be happening more often in the age of the internet and social media.  The article explains that this seems to be happening more today because people have poorer communication skills because they often text or speak on the computer instead of in person or on the telephone.  While some people ghost because they are in a dangerous or abusive relationship, others ghost because it is easier - they don’t have to deal with the fallout and emotional baggage of a breakup, or they simply don’t care.  After talking about this with a couple friends, I found that many of them had personal experiences of being ghosted themselves.  This was happening to them by anyone - from people they had met a couple times to longtime friends that simply stopped communicating with them.  It somehow feels more personal in an age when you have access to a person in so many ways and in a constant way when someone decides to "unfollow" your life and relationship. 


I told Colton and Brandon about this phenomenon and my idea to write a song from the perspective of someone who has been ghosted.  I wanted to capture the essence of the feeling of abandonment, of broken trust, of despair.  The beat that they started to make in the session completely encapsulated the ideas I had talked about with them.  The beginning of the song starts out explaining the situation that this girl finds herself in.  This person has literally become a ghost to them.  She questions every moment of the time they spent together - even questions herself for believing in them and not seeing through to his true nature and his eventual actions.  However, the second verse is a realization that she has been cheated and treated wrongly.  She wants to take back control and reclaim her power.  She won’t let his situation define her.  She will not become a ghost of who she was.